Behind every successful man is a woman !!

So you got a friend request on facebook from somebody at school .. you start wondering about all the people you had in your class and who all are missing from your friend list . You think about all the people who have become doctors/ IT consultants or entrepreneurs. And suddenly you remember a face bright and sunny . Someone who was always there for you and everybody else as well. Someone who was a friend ,who you could talk to for hours and who you relied to help in your studies as well as cheer for everybody on sports day .Somebody who was always too good at studies and excellent at sports no mater what she played. Somebody you loved but in a friendly kind of way , someone who reminded of your sister and you would protect her no matter what.You always thought this girl is gonna get it all. This girl is gonna make it big.You search for her in orkut /facebook and finally find her profile.The girl in school is now a lady with kids and family. But whatever happened to her dreams of making it big, don't see any such thing in her profile.
And you realized
Well behind every successful man is a woman . Also, behind every girl with high ambitions, who didn't make it big is a husband, kids and most importantly in-laws.
Why is it that when a house is not in perfect order its the lady who gets criticism even though she is working - same job/same hours as her husband ?
Why is it that it is the lady who has to cook food and make sure to feed the kids ?
Why is it that it is the lady's job to make sure the kids had taken medicine or the kid has tobe bathed/changed or washed ?Or when's the next appointment for the kids?
I know people will argue that now a days husbands also do all this . Point is how many of husbands do it on there own without being told ... I am lacking a very famous IT word here ...o yes there it is proactive .
Why does the husbands need reminding or even being told . Its their house, kids , life as well.Then why do they need to be told to do something.
I read in NBT , a section about the best half , i think its a weekly column and is really insightful .
I wish all should read it and learn from it as well.And this goes for both genders .

Again .behind every successful man is a woman . Also, behind every girl with high ambitions, who didn't make it big is a husband, kids and most importantly in-laws.

Life after marriage

I wonder a lot many times about how different is my life after marriage and a baby ... Dont feel like i am the same person anymore , i dont feel the same way..i was so cool and bindas ..now to even utter a word i have to think ..kahin kisi ko (plz read as hubby and in laws) ko bura na lag jaye ... everythign about me is changed..from what i loved to eat to what i am allowed to eat .. what i used to wear to what i am allowed to wear ... what i used to do vs what i am allowed to do ... well is this real me or was that real me .. i have no regrets about choices i made earlier ..till the time i decided to get married ... YAP.. sometimes i thank god that they gave me such a nice life with parents , siblings and friends so that i can enjoy life before i get married....only if the wheel of time can rotate inother direction and i can be a free ..free to do whatever i want ... free to eat/drink/wear ...free to live ...